Online Dating Tips

It’s not all that unusual to make up things as you go along and try to impress someone on a first date. Unfortunately, these things will come “home to roost” but that doesn’t stop us from telling them.

Here are the top 7 lies we are told (or we tell) on our first dates:

• I can’t believe we have so much in common – we use this line whether we have anything in common or not! With online dating profiles offering so much information about likes and dislikes it’s very easy for someone to lead you to believe that things are different than they really are. Guys who pretend they like dramatic movies, gals who pretend to love football, you get the drift.

• My job is so important I almost had to call you and break this off tonight – ok so these are ‘white’ lies but they’re lies none the less. It’s very tempting in trying to leave your date with a good impression that you over inflate what you’re doing for work (let’s face it an account manager sounds more impressive than a mail clerk, right?) and by default, this can lead to misconceptions about financial status.

• I’d love to settle down and have kids – don’t fall for this one. It’s used by guys as a way to move a little faster than we might be ready for ladies. Let your radar be your warning. Could be that there’s some truth to this, but don’t count on it. Guys, if ladies are using this one on you it may be time to consider running (don’t walk) to the nearest exit! She may be looking for a sugar daddy versus a relationship!

• It’s been months since I’ve been on a date – chances are that’s not true (for guys or gals). We’re social creatures by nature and our friends will seldom let us alone long enough that we’d be ‘months’ without a date.

• I would love to meet your family – on the first date, no one is in a hurry to meet their dates’ family! Forget that already. Chances are this line is being used to lull you into a false sense of security, ladies this could be headed for intimacy – guys this could be a red flag she’s a clinger.

• I’ve never been this comfortable with anyone before – Give me a break. You’re all grown up and a big girl/guy. You are generally comfortable in your own skin, so don’t pretend that all of a sudden you’ve been shy right up until this date started!

• I had a great time, I’ll call you – ok so this isn’t a lie all the time, but it’s a lie enough of the time to be in our top 7. If you didn’t have a great time, simply tell your date you were pleased to be able to meet them but that you don’t think that things will work out well between you.

Who knows why we feel we have to lie on our first date. But unfortunately both men and women do it and for whatever reason we feel like we’re never going to get caught. Don’t find yourself telling even a little white lie on your first date, or it’ll just come out later and make you look like a fool!