Online Dating Tips

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If you’re using an online dating service for the first time, you might be wondering how you’re going to get to know the person that you meet through an online dating service without jumping into your car and heading for the nearest coffee shop.

Treating someone you are meeting through an online dating service the same way you’d treat someone you are meeting for the first time isn’t as easy as one might think!! It’s harder to flirt with someone you know little (or nothing about) but flirting through Email and chat can help you get to know them a little better.

First and foremost, don’t use un-natural flirting talk!! Be yourself!! If you wouldn’t be comfortable saying something to someone face to face, then chances are this will come across in your chats and emails.

Take the time to review the online dating profile of the person you’re about to email or chat, which can give you ideas as to how best to proceed with flirting online. Find out what color hair they have, their eye color, how they like to dress, what kind of music they like, books they like to read, etc. Since most online dating services ask these types of questions (and if they’re filled in honestly) then you should have a lot of information that can provide you with material to ‘flirt’ with!

There are some keys to being successful with online dating and flirting and some of those things are:

A) Don’t get too overbearing: don’t try to play 50 questions in your initial emails. When using an online dating service, keeping your chats and emails as simple as possible increases your chancing of moving from an ‘online dating’ relationship to a face to face dating relationship.

B) Be positive and upbeat: don’t beat to death the boring details of your last online dating experience. Unless specifically asked in fact, don’t talk about it at all! Not all online dating experiences (just like face to face dating experiences) are going to be positive! Misery might love company, but this isn’t the way to go from online dating to face to face dating!

C) Don’t ask questions that require d answers! For instance: Don’t ask ‘do you like your job’, instead ask your online dating partner something like ‘tell me why you like your job’. Great questions to ask your online dating partners would also be questions about things to do in the areas where they live. Not only does it give your online dating partner something familiar to discuss, but it can also provide you with information on what type of dates they might enjoy!

D) Use humor (but be careful!): humor can be your friend – just use some caution in how you use it. General humor about life is often a great ice breaker and getting your online dating partner to tell a funny story can often get the ball rolling. Self humor also works well.

E) Be real: whatever you do, don’t hand out insincere compliments. Do not try to force a compliment, for instance if you’re explored the online dating profile and you find that you really are impressed with the variety of music your online date enjoys, say so, but if you don’t much care for the picture they’ve used for their online dating profile, don’t tell them you do!

While flirting with someone that you’ve met through an online dating service may be more difficult than flirting face to face, remember that some of the same rules do apply!